I Believe…
That just because two people argue, It doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do love each other.
I Believe…
That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I Believe…
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I Believe…
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I Believe…
That with time, hardwork and dilligence, I will become the person I want to be.
I Believe…
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I Believe…
That you can keep going long after you think you can’t.
I Believe…
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I Believe…
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I Believe…
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I Believe…
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I Believe…
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I Believe…
That sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I Believe…
That maturity has more to do with what type of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.
I Believe…
That it isn’t always enough, to be forgiven by others; sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself…
I Believe…
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I Believe…
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for whom we become.
I Believe…
Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different…
I Believe…
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.
I Believe…
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you – you will find the strength to help.
I Believe…
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I Believe….
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything.


Cheers, Nike

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Colin Powell’s 13 Rules of Leadership


1.  It ain’t as bad as you think.

2. Get mad, then get over it.

3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that
when your position falls, your ego goes with it.

4. It can be done.

5. Be careful what you choose. You may get it.

6. Don’t let adverse facts stand in the way of a good decision.

7. You can’t make someone else’s choices.

8. Check small things.

9. Share credit.

10. Remain calm. Be kind.

11. Have a vision.

12. Don’t take counsel of your fears or naysayers.

13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.

Remember the difference between a boss and a leader ; a boss says “Go!” a leader says “Let’s Go!” – E. M. Kelly





I stood with strong charges,
OFFENCE – Breaking Genesis 2 section 16 &17,
A crime against the Almighty
No one dared to bail me
Detained and adjourned were my dreams,
Amidst hopelessness, I pleaded guilty to the charge,
When suddenly, I heard footsteps, like in a war,
Then I heard the voice of CHRIST saying
The earth quaked, the nations trembled, the mountains skipped like rams,
The oppressed delivered, victims became victors,
My offence was dropped and freedom became mine,
He reached down into the depths of sin, picked me up, washed me in His blood,
Took away my stony heart and put in a heart of flesh,
Put a robe of righteousness on me and wrote my name in the Book of Life,
He adopted me as His very own and called me Daughter (Son)
Indeed, Mercy spoke on my behalf!
Indeed I am free!

In His Mercy,


Thank You Lord

I got tired of my struggles,
Of crouching over heatless fires,
In my lonely bedroom, I began to think
Then I remembered Your Love,
Your ever persistent kindness,
I remembered that You are my shepherd and You will not make me want.
Though I have reddened your green pastures because of my sins
And because I longed for much more than I needed,
Then I cried out ‘Have Mercy On Me Lord’!
You heard me, You answered me,
Then I felt a peace that I could not comprehend come over me,
Happiness, contentment and fulfillment was all I could feel,
I realized that you had never left nor forsaken me
Your love was always there, I just didn’t run to You.
Thank You for this grace Lord,
Thank You Lord!








This was the title of a message our student pastor preached to us one Sunday, 9 years ago while in the university. The title came to mind recently. I began to think and I remembered all that I learnt that day and how it has helped me tremendously over the years. I want to share what I learnt. I believe someone needs it today.
Most people base their love on what other people are able to do for them, but the love turns awry when things don’t go the way they want. Like when we demand something from someone and don’t get it, we feel we’ve been let down. There are many reasons for such; the person may not have the capacity to give what we’re asking; he/she might feel we do not really need what we’re asking after listening (when we ask for the wrong things); the timing isn’t right as to deliver what we’re demanding; or the person is out rightly selfish! Lol.
So, I discovered that we also love things to work out our way even in our dealings with God; instant blessings. But really, God has plans for everyone and He alone knows ‘what’ we need per time and ‘when’ we need it. This is where TRUST in GOD comes in. TOTAL TRUST. God is more sensitive to our needs than any human can be. He shows up on time even when it looks late in our perspective. He is GOD not man.
A typical biblical example is the story of Mary, Martha and their brother Lazarus in John 11; 1-14. Lazarus was sick and they requested that Jesus should come. Jesus did not respond immediately. Verse 5 says that Jesus loved Martha, her sister and Lazarus. There was no doubt of his love for them even in their trial. But instead of going to them as soon as they asked for him, He stayed 2 more days where He was…..

When He finally showed up, Lazarus was dead and had been buried for four days! Obviously it would seem that there was no hope. Martha also said ‘Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died’. How many times have we thought this way? How many times have we made such a statement in different ways? If only God had……, If God can just…..
But Martha quickly added, ‘I know that whatever you ask God, He will give you’. We must always trust God and learn to encourage ourselves in trials. Make it a lifestyle to always speak positive, in accordance to God’s word. Martha believed God and encouraged herself even though death had occurred. Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead before their eyes. Mary and Martha called unto Jesus the Healer, but Jesus the Life-giver showed up!
Whatever it is that you are going through, do not limit God. In verse 37, before Jesus raised Lazarus, some people said, ‘if Jesus could open the eyes of the blind, couldn’t he have kept Lazarus from dying’? Do not listen to what people say especially negative things in your period of trials, because Jesus the Life-Giver is on His way to you, and believe me, He always shows up when you trust Him totally. It might seem late, know that He loves you and knows what’s best for you. So, I say to you, God might come late, but, He comes eventually, in a big way!


Love Always, 


Please Take Heed


Saw this somewhere and decided to share.
Here is a list of things you need to teach your
Child(ren) at early age:

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s
laps no matter the situation including uncles.
2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child
once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.
3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as
‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’
4. Whenever your child goes out to play with
friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or
she is not comfortable with and also be
observant if your child becomes too fond of a
particular adult.
6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes
withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.
7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the
right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will
teach them the wrong values.
8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.
9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends
especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.
10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their
private parts properly and warn them never to
allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from
home and with you).
11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).
12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of
standing out of the crowd.
13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it.
Take up the case and show them you can defend them.
Remember, we are either parents or parents-to be, and remember “THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME”



Are You Even Listening?

In one shape or form, we are all most likely guilty of this – even I… the smart phone distraction.
It can be infuriating when you are on the other end of it, trying to have a conversation with someone and all of a sudden they are looking at their phone – texting someone else – and then look back up at you and say “huh? Sorry.” We all feel this constant need to pull it out – to check email, to text, to see if there is something interesting happening RIGHT NOW. What ever happened to the good old days of people actually having face to face conversations? So why is it that we find our cell phones so fascinating? Is it because at one point in time the thought of having a mini hand-held computer was something out of this world? Now years later we have a society that is filled with people who aren’t paying attention while they are walking down the street because they can’t pull themselves away from their cell phone screen.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am definitely not an anti-smart phone person, I love my smart phone! But there is a time and place for everything, including your phone. They can help make a long journey by air, on a train or bus tolerable. They are also good to have when you are lost regardless of if you are in a car, bike, bus, or on foot. Also a great source for information and education.
All I am saying, is when you are out with your friends, family, significant other, when you’re in church,… put the phone away! There is no need to check facebook in the middle of dinner, and that text message can wait until later, lol. It’s rude to just pick up your phone and start reading text messages in the middle of someone talking to you… and your friends and family didn’t come to hang out with you just to sit there and watch you play on your phone all day! Everything has its use and the usage must not be abused. Interestingly, some do not know how to make use of their smart phones. All they use it for is to connect to social media. Your phone is built for so much more! For example, if you need to know or find out the meaning of something or a word, you can just google it! Anyway, that’s a topic for another day.
Please give your eyes rest, spend time with your friends and family, have conversations with them away from an illuminated screen.

Enjoy the rest of your week.



Too Many Days At A Time

Its been a long while! There’s been so much silence. I must say its for a good comeback. Its better to be made in secret and then manifest in the physical. I have a lot I’ld love to share today, but I have a nudge to encourage someone who’s going through a challenging phase. I hope you feel better after reading this….

We all have routines. Get up in the morning, say our prayers, bath and dress up, turn on the news, or read the newspaper, and then start the rest of the day. It would be wonderful if the morning information had a lot of good news, something that leaves us with good and hopeful feelings as we venture out into our day, but I can’t say that I see it often. There are two days in every week about which we should not worry. Two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. Yesterday is gone!!

The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow, with its possible adversities, its challenges, and its large promise. We can only plan ahead for tomorrow, plant and expect our harvests. Tomorrow’s sun will rise, whether in splendor or behind a mask of clouds. But it will rise. Until it does we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day: Today. Any man can fight the battles of just one day. It is when you and I add the burdens of two eternities – yesterday and tomorrow, that we break down. It is not necessarily the experience of today that disturbs our peace of mind. It is often time the bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. All we can do is apologize for yesterday’s wrongs. Let us therefore live one day at a time while ‘planning’ not ‘worrying’ about tomorrow. Instead of worrying about what tomorrow holds, we must learn from the mistakes of yesterday and live a better today.

Be the best, be at your best! Decide to read or listen to positive messages each morning before your day begins? Reprogram your mind to move past the negative and focus on the great possibilities life has to offer. After all, you have nothing to lose except some negativity! Tomorrow holds better things. Don’t pray and then worry. You cannot answer your prayers yourself. Be encouraged! Be inspired!

Enjoy the rest of your week.




Martin Luther said- “Everything that is done in the world is done by the hopeful” We all have trying times. The trials and difficult moments sometimes seem to stay longer than we can handle. Earlier today, I began to think about life and its phases. I gradually began to think about the word HOPE. I got a lot of inspiration and have this strong urge to encourage someone today.

Hope has the power to change the course of events, to change the course of history, and to change the course of life. It is a positive feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen in accordance with what we imagine it to be. It is based on God’s promises and their fulfillment. God’s promises do not always correspond with our reality, rather they contradict our present experience. This is where our Hope comes to play.

Hope does not deny the present darkness but it reminds us that dawn is coming. Hope doesn’t just happen, it is as a result of a conscious choice. Hope is futuristic and optimistic. Jean Kerr said – “Hope is the feeling you have, that the feeling you have isn’t permanent”.

A few Hope boosters:

1. Always remember God’s promises to you. This is the major key to getting what you want. His promises for you are in his word.

2. Learn to say affirmations (positive statements) and stop hammering yourself with the ‘what ifs’, ‘how will’, etc. Use your imagination to help a situation turn out the way you want. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

3. Always remember your vision and dreams, since they end with you getting what you desire.

4. Help others. This is a good way to overlook your challenges. This helps your mood, and in the midst of helping others, your answer and positive change can come.

What makes HOPE to be effective is by holding on to it as it is better to be HOPEFUL than to be HOPELESS.
Endeavor to hold on to your Hopes for life and be ready to embrace them when they start happening because there is power in HOPE. No matter your circumstance, without HOPE, things may seem impossible, but with HOPE,…………………………… watch out!

Here’s a poem to make you Hopeful

“Yesterday’s failures must be forgotten
Tomorrow’s new hope and new fulfillment must be cherished
Hope knows no fear
Even inside the abysmal abyss
Hope dares to blossom
Hope secretly feeds and strengthens promise”. ( Sri Chinmoy).

Have a Hopeful week ahead


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Everyone is thinking all the time whether they realize it or not. As maturity and exposure is attained, man’s way of thinking is expected to change. We have different thoughts to issues of life and life itself.

Everything you perceive in the physical world has its origin in the invisible, inner world of your thoughts and beliefs. Our thoughts lead to our decisions that affect our lives negatively or positively.
For every outside effect there is an inner cause; Whatever you are, wherever you are, whatever results you have around you is a product of your thoughts. No matter what the situation or circumstances, everything you do stems from your thought.

Every thought you have is either an investment or an expense. Your thoughts are either blessing you or cursing you.
Your thoughts turn into feelings, which turn into actions, and finally results. Creating your reality is an inside job.
There are three classes of thoughts we experience every day. They include, positive thoughts, action thoughts, and worry thoughts.
If we have gratitude for who we are and what we achieve, we have positive thoughts, if we dwell on a future event that hasn’t happened, we have worry thoughts. It is estimated that the average person has between 12,000 and 70,000 thoughts a day.

Some thoughts are dominant than others. In order to be productive in life, you must learn to control the nature of your dominant, habitual thoughts. By doing so, you will be able to attract into your life that which you intend to have and experience as you come to know the Truth that your thoughts create your reality.
Some people also think that life just happens, unknown to them, they are part of the creation of their own life, success or mediocrity. Be conscious of your thoughts. Instantly replace unwanted/negative thoughts with its opposite or positive equivalent. For instance, if you think to yourself “I’m not good enough, I can’t succeed”, mentally replace that thought with “I am good enough and success is mine”.

How to deal with negative thoughts:-

1. Never allow any negative thought to stay too long on your mind. When a negative thought have been allowed to germinate and bear negative fruits, it is difficult to eliminate

2. Do not create an environment for negative thoughts. Never go to places where you can get easily discouraged. Avoid places where negative thoughts are nurtured. The quote -“You must weed your mind as you would weed your garden.” By Astrid Alauda, has always worked for me.

3. Make positive confessions daily Remember that words are powerful. The more positive confessions we make, the more productive our inner spirit becomes. Whatever we confess will eventually manifest and become our reality.

4. Develop a close relationship with positive minded people.

In a nutshell, your life is the perfect mirror of your thoughts, beliefs and dominant mental attitude.
Your thoughts create your reality!

Have a great week ahead!


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Earn Your Wife’s Respect II

Wow! Its been four days! Four days of silence here. Well, i’m back, and trust me, its a good come-back. *smiles*
Men have through the ages sought respect from the world around them but especially from their spouses and families. This need for respect isn’t developed but is inborn, whether the male is fifteen or sixty years of age. Earning your wife’s respect doesn’t happen over-night. It is a gradual and conscious effort. Your wife’s behavior is merely a response of how you are and how she is treated.

Here are some more tips;

5. Love your spouse
Without genuine love for your spouse, you may not get genuine respect. It doesn’t work any other way. Loving her is not a trade off, you’re not doing this in order to get. In loving her, you fulfill your greatest duty as a husband. Whatever drew her to you should not fade. Stand up for her in front of others. Don’t wait for big battles to stand up for her. Watch out for everyday moments like conversation with in-laws, friends and colleagues and take her side. Love can be expressed in many ways; quality time, help, gifts, attention, forgiveness, words of affirmation, etc.

6. Have a vision.
No woman wants a man that always says “i don’t know” to almost every question or decision that is to be made. You must have a vision for your family. There”s a wide gap between a man that has direction in his life and a man that doesn’t. You should have answers to the following questions; why does this family exist? what will we be known for? what are we going to do for God and humanity? Your vision for your family should be a collective one. Have big picture goals.

7. Honor her physically
Do not hit her, shove her, raise your hand, threaten her nor intimidate her with physical violence or with your presence. Being the head of the house does not mean bully. Be aware that your spouse knows that you are physically stronger than her. She will appreciate the fact that you never resort to physical strength to show her who is stronger.
Also, please help around the house. Thank God for the biceps and triceps. It doesn’t matter how much you actually help, what is more important is the fact that you have the sensitivity to offer help.

8. Control
Self control, emotional control, financial control, fame control and argument & situational control. We are humans and will have misunderstandings but we can acknowledge someone without agreeing with them. Just like there are ways to threaten someone non-verbally, there are ways to validate someone non-verbally. All that it requires is understanding of where to aim your validation. When in an argument with your spouse, focus on the deeper sense of who she is and what she means to you outside of the disagreement.

Of course, there are so many other right ways to earn your wife’s respect. These are just a few majors. You cannot demand genuine respect from a woman, you can only earn it by who you are and what you do to and for her.

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become your character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Have a blessed week!



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Sir, Earn Your Wife’s Respect

The last article i wrote was for women. I sent the link to a male friend of mine, and he said “It’s for women, not reading”. Told him he would learn something but he wouldn’t budge. So, this is for the men. ( Wonder what his excuse will be this time *smiles*).
Respect is not achieved or gained by merely ordering someone to respect you. It is earned. You earn it by how you speak, act and by who you are. It is general knowledge that a woman is expected to have genuine respect for her spouse. It is her duty. I read an article online sometime ago about love and respect. It says, “All women want to be loved and all men want to be respected”. Expressly, it is said that men who love their wives tend to be respected, and that women who respect their husbands tend to receive love. It is also true that the best way a man can get what he needs from his wife is to both give her what she needs and what he needs from her (Love/Respect).

Here are a few ways to earn your wife’s respect

1. Appreciate and Honor her.
Please do not treat her as if she were an inferior person. She is your help-meet. Whatever you deserve, she also deserves. Help her use her God given skills as a home maker. Make sure she knows how much you value and appreciate her. Be interested in what she does or is doing. Talk about her work, day, health, etc. Encourage her, commend her accomplishments. Accept the fact that your spouse is contributing to the family, else, think of the cost of hiring a cook, dishwasher, house keeper, nurse-maid, decorator, paying constantly for laundry, and accountant (keeping record of home expenses).

2. Be a good provider
Have an arrangement for controlled spending; this helps you to live within your means. Nowadays, women have taken up the responsibility of providing for the home. It should not be! 1 Timothy 5:8 says, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel”. Yes, a woman can and should contribute to the upkeep of the family, as supporting and maintaining the family is a joint effort. It should not be her sole responsibility. Women who assume this role struggle in the place of respect for their spouses. They go through so many emotional traumas. Some women accept it, some overcome it. When a woman is the provider in the family, it takes grace to still hold her man in high esteem. Also, being a good provider isn’t just monetary. Support, advice, prayers, a shoulder to lean on, insight, etc are good areas where a man can and should provide for his wife.

3. Follow through on your promises
Integrity! This is a byproduct of respect. When your spouse knows where you stand and knows you’ll follow through, then her respect is part of the package. Words matter so much to women. What you say, How you say it and When you say it. Never make vain promises to your spouse.

4. Be a good decision maker.
Sir, please show yourself as strong, steady and able to make good decisions. You are a leader, and making good decisions is a vital attribute in a leader. Your wife becomes totally confident in your abilities. This doesn’t mean your spouse’s opinion is unimportant. As a matter of fact, women make good decisions too. When you involve her in decision making, it encourages her to express her thoughts and feelings freely. You are human and will certainly make mistakes and when you do, you’ll need her understanding. If you give your spouse her rightful place in the home and in your life, when you make mistakes, she would find it easy to understand and respect your head-ship without saying ‘i told you so”.

As a man, you have Christ as your head. If you set the example of submission to the head-ship of Christ, it will not be difficult for your spouse to respect you. You might not demand respect from your wife, but your deeds will earn it for you!

There’s more to come, look out!!



Woman II

You, dear woman are indeed a blessing! There is more to you than you can ever imagine. Last time, we looked through some vital instructions as to how to help your spouse fulfill his God-given goals. In continuation, here are some more instructions;

7. Never compare him with any other man in words or action. This is so important. He is unique, make him feel important and cared for.

8. He loves to be admired. Admire him and appreciate him for little gestures. He’ll do more when he senses or hears appreciation.

9. Be careful what you say to him. There’s a right thing to say, a right time to say it, and a right way to say it. Listen to him and be sensitive to his mood.

10. Learn to forgive faults. Do not keep grudges, Do not nag. He can’t stand that. Proverbs 21:9 says; “it is better to live alone in the desert than with a crabby complaining wife”.

11. Ask the right questions. This involves tact and understanding. Despite all the questions in your heart, which obviously need answers, you must ask them patiently and wisely. Never use the attack approach. You may not get the right answer.

It takes a lot of grace and patience to do the above, but you must not be weary in well doing. The reward is great and fulfilling. When he’s standing tall, before kings, and fulfilling his God-given vision, you can look and say, “that’s MY man”.
Your labour in the secret is always rewarded in the open because God is just and faithful.

Indeed, behind every successful man is a successful woman!!



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Dear Woman,

You were and are designed to be a blessing to your spouse and to ‘help’ him achieve the goals God gave him. He’s not like you at all. He is strong, and can be quite insensitive, based on your emotions. You’d be surprised he might not even realize you’ve come to help! So, to help your task and protect you from being on the receiving end of his imperfections,

Here are some vital instructions;

1. Don’t ever try to fix him, if he ever develops a fault, God is his manufacturer. All you need do is to talk to God about him. You’re his spouse, not his God. God doesn’t like it when you think you can change him and you attempt to take His place.

2. Well, God is your head, but your spouse is His deputy in your life. To
get the best of him, you need to respect him like you respect God. Sarah, in the Bible is a perfect example.

3. You will realize that he fumbles in many things. Yes, you’re smart but resist the urge to get in front of him and take charge of things except he tells you to.

4. He’s a man of God but he’s still a man.
Remember a hungry man is an angry man whether the hunger is for food or sex(in marriage). Don’t you ever play politics with him on those issues.

5. He likes competing and winning, that’s why he’s crazy about sports. But there’s an area he doesn’t mind you being better – Character! So take advantage, be a better lover, more humble, more patient, more virtuous.

6. He enjoys attractive help mates, quite more than is good for him. As you get into helping him, Don’t forget to stay attractive as much as possible.
It’s a tough task but it is possible. You’re a woman after all!

Whatever you face in life, never forget
why you’re here and why you were made. If you keep your eyes on the goal of being a blessing to your spouse, sooner than later he will come to adore you. Meanwhile, keep in touch with God in prayer. If you’ve never needed His help, you will certainly need it on this assignment.

Watch out for more instructions.


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