Wow! Its been four days! Four days of silence here. Well, i’m back, and trust me, its a good come-back. *smiles*
Men have through the ages sought respect from the world around them but especially from their spouses and families. This need for respect isn’t developed but is inborn, whether the male is fifteen or sixty years of age. Earning your wife’s respect doesn’t happen over-night. It is a gradual and conscious effort. Your wife’s behavior is merely a response of how you are and how she is treated.
Here are some more tips;
5. Love your spouse
Without genuine love for your spouse, you may not get genuine respect. It doesn’t work any other way. Loving her is not a trade off, you’re not doing this in order to get. In loving her, you fulfill your greatest duty as a husband. Whatever drew her to you should not fade. Stand up for her in front of others. Don’t wait for big battles to stand up for her. Watch out for everyday moments like conversation with in-laws, friends and colleagues and take her side. Love can be expressed in many ways; quality time, help, gifts, attention, forgiveness, words of affirmation, etc.
6. Have a vision.
No woman wants a man that always says “i don’t know” to almost every question or decision that is to be made. You must have a vision for your family. There”s a wide gap between a man that has direction in his life and a man that doesn’t. You should have answers to the following questions; why does this family exist? what will we be known for? what are we going to do for God and humanity? Your vision for your family should be a collective one. Have big picture goals.
7. Honor her physically
Do not hit her, shove her, raise your hand, threaten her nor intimidate her with physical violence or with your presence. Being the head of the house does not mean bully. Be aware that your spouse knows that you are physically stronger than her. She will appreciate the fact that you never resort to physical strength to show her who is stronger.
Also, please help around the house. Thank God for the biceps and triceps. It doesn’t matter how much you actually help, what is more important is the fact that you have the sensitivity to offer help.
Self control, emotional control, financial control, fame control and argument & situational control. We are humans and will have misunderstandings but we can acknowledge someone without agreeing with them. Just like there are ways to threaten someone non-verbally, there are ways to validate someone non-verbally. All that it requires is understanding of where to aim your validation. When in an argument with your spouse, focus on the deeper sense of who she is and what she means to you outside of the disagreement.
Of course, there are so many other right ways to earn your wife’s respect. These are just a few majors. You cannot demand genuine respect from a woman, you can only earn it by who you are and what you do to and for her.
Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become your character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
Have a blessed week!
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